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May 20

So today I wrote a post on Facebook.

Most folks on my Faceboo knew of my Larondo's passing. So many reached out.

So I decided to put up a post.

and here it is because you wouldn't find it there anymore: I removed it immediately i put it up.

There are some kind of things you wouldn't wish on any human being. One of such happened to me last Wednesday.
I lost my daughter. My 2 years + 5 months old baby girl. Looking back now I treated her older than she actually was cos she behaved as though she were a four year old. It's only when she asks to 'suck bobby' that I remember her real age. I am not sure I have fully grasped the implications of her passing but I am most certain my world, my entire world came crashing.
This is the year I have enjoyed the sweetest fellowship with my maker. I have been blessed in so many ways yet I lost my beloved daughter and all I have done since that day is thank God. Even when I have wept and wailed and howled and sighed, at the end of each day I have thanked him. For giving me such a delight, for the opportunity to have 'mothered' such a gem. (I have an elder daughter who is 5 but my little one made me enjoy motherhood more: she's probably the most peaceful little girl that ever lived)
My ModebareOluwa took an evening nap and transformed into an angel. She wasn't ill, she was active that day and before. She had her bath, had lunch, did her homework and then took a nap. I was home! I went in to get her dressed for church and she was limp. Drove her to the hospital like a mad woman but she was gone. So after hours of praying, I pleaded with my pastors and neighbors to take a break because it pained me to see them labour so much. If God wanted her to live, he wouldn't have allowed her die for so long
I took her body, cleaned her up, oiled her body, dressed her in her favorite 'cinderella' dress and wrapped her in my most valuable wrapper. A few hours later (around 2am) we laid her to mother earth. Until the moment we covered her i was hoping my daughter would call out to me. In a fleeting moment, I wished for a 'lady in red' (Game of Thrones fans would relate). As I type this I still wish this is a bad dream that I would wake up.
I'd like to thank everyone that reached out to me. Calls, messages and comments. I must say I'm overwhelmed! Let me apologize in advance for being unable to respond individually to all comments... A daily dose of lexotan keeps me inactive most of the time!

This may not have made it to Facebook bu I know someday, I will make this blog public and then all can read

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